Our emotions are the ultimate guidance system in our life. Negative emotions showing up are the guidance that shows us what we DO NOT want to experience. Positive emotions show up letting us know we are in alignment with what we want to experience.
Negative emotions stop the flow, while positive emotions create our desires.
When negative emotions show up, this is our time to stop. To reflect on our inner guidance and realize we are ready for a shift. For me, it is the time to pull out my journal and define to myself what it is I DO WANT to experience. Then focus on that. What we focus on grows.
I find when negative emotions show up it is so easy to focus on them, creating more fear within them. It takes a conscious effort to realize these feelings are guiding me. They are my perfect compose, telling me to slow down and redefine my direction. My fears do not need to manifest. A change of perception, a change in focus is needed.
When I change my own personal emotions from negative to positive it changes my whole experience, allowing inspiration to lead and creativity to flow.
Freewill, the ability to change behaviors, thoughts, beliefs in order to have different experiences give us the sense that we have control. Is this all an illusion, do we have any control? Where is the line of what we can control and what is out of our control?
Behavior science will tell us we have control. Free will, as well as most religions, teach us we have choices that control the outcome. At what point does our control end and a higher power or purpose kick in?
My life seems to be a playing ground for finding that balance. Is yours too? One end of the scale is years of research and experience of knowing that we have more control than we think. The other end is the complete loss of personal control called faith. Both faith and fear have a place in our journey, they are a part of each and every one of us.
It is in the loss of control that we find our deepest fears arise and it’s the space where we discover our deepest love.
The layers of fear run deep. However, once revealed and let go there always seems to be a deeper level of love and faith. Let’s not ignore the fears, but let’s allow ourselves to reveal and work through the fear to find the faith.
Now is a time when the world is getting quiet. We are asked to stay in our homes, be with our family, and have faith. For some home is a happy place. For many, it is filled with anxiety, depression, anger along with many other fears. Beneath the fear, we find unity and love.
Let’s enjoy the discovery of something better. Let’s not be afraid to walk through the fire with our fears. Overcoming them is the best gift we can give ourselves and those we love.
What are your thoughts during this time? What can we control? What should we control? What should we let go?
Driving down the road with my family we had the discussion of: “What is the meaning to life?”
As much as I know we all have different experiences, I was a little shocked that not everyone thinks about this. Me and my ‘little me’ – well yes, we think about it. I think about it often. Not in a depressing way by any means, but I often have deep thoughts around this subject. This is probably why I love learning about different religions and belief systems. I love the discovery and learning of what makes us, well us.
Through my own faith and spiritual practice, I often find my answers. However, today… after some family discussion, and then finally google… we found the meaning!
To be happy. To experience joy.
It is to take the experiences that do not feel good and learn, grow, expand so that we can experience what does feel good.
With every achievement, we have a new perspective. Therefore, creates a new desire for which we would like to achieve. Then unfolds the new dream or goal. Or we experience something we know doesn’t feel good, and we desire a change. This is life. Life is the experience, joy is the purpose.
The experience in which we align with joy varies for each of us. Some it is through religious beliefs, others it is simply just by experiencing love. Joy is the ultimate emotion expressing love.
Do you think about the meaning of life? If so, what is your answer? What conclusions have you aligned with that give you the answer that makes you ‘feel good’? I would love to hear your answer!
Its 2020! I was introduced to a new tradition this year that I have encouraged those around me to embrace.
Choose one word for the year.
One word. It’s powerful. In the last couple of days since I chose my word, I have found is that my thoughts tend to align with it. When our thoughts align, this is the core of manifesting what we desire.
My word for 2020 is: Experience.
My family all chose a word too: Team, Super-Joy, and Expansive.
Try it, let me know what your word is.
We all do it, every day. We make mistakes. I do not believe there is a human being out there that doesn’t know this and believe they they themselves make mistakes and knows others do to. No one is ignorant of, nor immune to mistakes. It is part of life and is is OKAY.
What defines character and integrity is not in the mistake. No matter what the mistake is, it is how we overcome and show up for our mistakes.
Show up with ourselves. How we do we show up for us? How do we talk to ourselves? Do we feel guilt or cause unconscious self-destruction? Or do we forgive ourselves and know a mistake does not define us? Do we hide from it, ignore it, bury it, fight it, or do we own it?
We must all show up for ourselves first as who we want to be, or we will not have the ability to show up for others. This is where our strength of who we are and our own character begins. It is our foundation.
Show up with others. How do we show up for others? Do we value the people around us enough to show up and say I am sorry? Do we let our actions speak louder than words by showing them we can do better, we are willing to see our mistakes and try to overcome them? Not a promise we wont again, we all know how often those are broken; however a sincere showing up in humility, strength, and love to say ‘I am sorry, I desire to do better.’
When we show up for others we open the door to heal, for both sides. Their journey of hurt may not allow them to see us showing up in the way we desire, but it will start the process. With time, they will begin to see both us, and them – authentically.
Be this in business or at home, how we handle our mistakes define us. It is what defines our relationships and our experiences around us. We either build trust or tear it down. The way we show up builds us and builds our character.
It is not always easy. My little one is learning this today. She is having to build up her strength and not hide. She is showing up today (after tons of practice this morning). She is showing up to own her mistake, apologize, and ask guidance on making it better. I am so proud of her no matter the outcome, because she is choosing to show up!
The power of prayer is the most powerful tool we have. No matter what your personal beliefs or religion you belong to, the power of prayer is undeniably stronger than any other method available to find peace. Peace is what we all are striving for in prayer. Its not the manifested outcome that we want, its the feeling that outcome brings to us and those around us.
Prayer can be done in many different ways, and any time, anywhere. Prayer is personal. Yet, when praying the same prayer with others there is a power beyond anything we can imagine that brings forth healing.
There are situations in my life that I tend to try to ‘fix’. Solve through changing behaviors or taking control of things the best I know how. It is a personal journey to recognize the same situations that I tend to forget about prayer and I try to handle on my own. With self-reflection I see patterns. I see that some pieces of life I hand over to a higher power each day. Others, I refuse to let go of – usually unconsciously. I somehow think I have more control on my own, that I can fix things. I can’t. Not on my own, never. Maybe patch some pieces along the road and feel good short term, but never fix.
When we learn to turn to prayer instead of self-control we find we are guided and a path is provided. A path of peace, a path of purpose. This is where I call the flow. The flow when things just work. People and opportunities just show up, finances flow, love flows.
Prayer and meditation hold the keys to life’s flow.
Stop today, tomorrow and every day. Give your challenges over, pray for healing, pray for those you love, pray for others, pray for yourself. Remember to pray, and pray often.
For years I have studied the law of attraction. For a theory so simple, it is so complex and has so many layers of understanding. Our world is energetic and the law of attraction brings similar vibrations/currents together.
But what does that mean? When I was 20 years old I was presented with the concept that the people in our life’s are a mirror of ourselves. I locked onto this theory and had a great depth of personal growth when I brought this into my personal life. I started looking at the people around me. And then I started looking at myself and how I am attracting this experience. It has been a core ‘skill or tool’ I have used in my personal journey.
Though it started out simple and awakening, over the years this very concept has challenged me. With every challenge I grow stronger in my understanding. I gain knowledge from many sources and so many seem contradicting. I believe that many people share this same inner contradiction when it comes to law of attraction and/or the mirror theory.
There are some people that show up in my life that there is no question they are here to show me my mirror. ‘Yup, that is them behaving like me!’ (like my kids… oh my girls show up often as this). This is when I can see I don’t like the behavior I am seeing, but before I can expect to experience anything different, I must look to myself first and correct that within me. Been there, done that, do that – often!
I also know that I have many people that show up that are not me. For example, when lier’s and manipulators, people that are destructive from the inside out show up. After years of self-awareness and depths of learning, I know these behaviors are not mine. So why am I attracting them?
Some say its not about me being like them, it is because I am able to help these people. They show up because I have the ability to guide them to heal this part of them. Some say, opposites attract. They are showing up to teach me something or they are showing up for me to teach them something. Or, the law of attraction is simply not true and people just show up (which I believe too much in faith and synchronicity and years of research and experience to believe such a thing). There are so many ways of explaining something that is hard to articulate.
Lately, I came across an ‘ah-ha’ of years of personal confusion around this theory. Something hit home. It was probably all of the various learning pieces over the years and then all it took is one profound little piece that rang true to me. It really is about the law of attraction – an energy frequency, which I understand well. There is a piece of me that is generically on the same energetic playing field as them.
The purpose as well as what brings us both to this same current may vary. What emotion and behavior brings them to this point does not have to match what emotion or behavior that brought me. But we have both found ourselves on the same field. A field I don’t wish to be on – they may not either.
The piece that has unfolded for me is that the behaviors that I don’t like, that I despise – can carry, often carry, DO CARRY the same energy frequency that my personal judgement toward the behaviors carry. In the resistance and fight alone, I am choosing the same frequency of experience with those that their behavior is driving them to the same space. Or even deeper, personal hurt from the past, as far back as childhood or even generational hurt that hasn’t been healed can bring us to the same energetic field.
Until I change by personal energetic/emotional frequency around this behavior I will keep attracting people with the behaviors I don’t like.
Until I can see this, I can not change it. On this particular lesson, no matter how much research and experience, it took almost 20 years to reach this ‘ah-ha’. I also am aware, I have just opened the door to deeper understanding I have yet to understand. I love breakthroughs! I love ‘ah-ha’s’!
At this point, now that I see it, I do have experience, understanding, and all the tools I need to be able shift out of the emotional state that attracts what I do not desire.
I get to be the energy I want to attract! Live in the space that flow exists. Where people and opportunity attract to me, a space of abundance, and where love leads. My favorite space along my journey: In the flow of life.
“I realized that over the past few months, I had unknowingly turned away from love – the only fuel source that really works for me. Instead of being fueled by love, I unconsciously had turned to fear, contempt, self-righteousness, and maybe a touch of high-octane disdain to navigate hard news and hard people.” ~Brene Brown
A friend of mine shared this quote along with Brene’s Post this morning (you can read it here). It hit home with me!
Love is who we are. We are covered in fear, piles of fear. Most of us with so many layers that we have forgot what love is and who we are.
My soul has been begging me to find the light. There is this space inside of me that wants to burst through all the fears and shine so bright. I see it, I feel it, I crave it. I love that space when every moment is love. When all the judgments, the fears, the doubts, the hurts go away.
Brene hit it on the head when she said she unconsciously had turned to fear… We have been conditioned and taught that fear protects us. We unconsciously begin to act out of fear. We turn to protection of ourselves, our families, those close to us that we love. We do this unconsciously because that is our habit, it is what is in our skin and bones. It is what feels natural. That is, until we experience letting that go and feel true, authentic love. In that space is natural, that is who we are. We have just forgotten it.
What pains us each day is Lovelessness. We have let fear dominate and drive us. In the smallest ways… Fear dominates when we judge another person – for anything! Who gets road rage? That is one of the largest forms of judgement in a space of fear that is unconscious to so many. How about the fear of we are not enough, or we do not have enough? Enough time, enough money, enough love, enough energy, enough education or experience? All of the times that we act out of not having or being enough. This is fear! This is a space of lovelessness.
In the day to day is where the fear begins to take over. This is where it begins to grow and then it turns into the ugly truths that we see today. Letting fear rule and forgetting about the love that is suffocating inside, screaming to come out and shine. To heal. It is when start to let fear win that the mental state begins to shift and develop into illnesses. Where we are seeing mass murdering’, we are experiencing trafficking at all time highs, stalking, and personal depression at a rise. This list can go on and on. We are experiencing it at younger ages, in higher volumes. All of this stems from lovelessness.
The way we begin to start to experience something different is when EACH OF US CHOOSE TO NOT LET FEAR WIN. That we choose to awaken from our unconscious behavior and that we start to take serious the little things that add up and become big things.
It is when we start to be love that we start to see love. We awaken to helping instead of hindering. We awaken to purpose instead of pain. That we realize love spreads just as fear spreads. Its a choice each day from all of us as a whole to choose what we spread. What do you choose today?
The world is not against you, it is for you. When we finally realize that all the frustrations and pain (both emotional and physical) show up to help us, not hinder us we open up to possibilities, to healing.
Every corner I turn is a new challenge. Some days I see the challenge and I am willing to walk through it. Not run, not fight, but SHOW UP. Other days, fear gets the best of me and my fight or flight kicks in. I want to fight back and control, or I want to hide away until it goes away. The problem is neither of those actually get me through it. Neither of those result in success, in healing.
Moments of silence guide me through it. It is in my authentic self, as I show up as me and not the pain, that I am able to walk through fire. I used to think that being still was a form of hiding but I have found it is where my power lies. It is where peace is found and clarity begins to form. It is when the world gets quiet and I find my truth. Because my truth is not yours, yours is not mine – we are at different parts of the journey.
When the same pain keeps showing up, there has to come a point when we want to stop repeating the same experience and learn what we are meant to learn. Sometimes this pain is financial, sometimes its physical or emotional, other times it’s people that keep showing up that you want to go away. No matter the pain, if it hurts – its showing up to help you, to help me.
It is time to see a larger picture, to not be stuck behind the pain but to understand what is driving the pain and how we find love and healing through the pain. Then, as the flow of life goes – it is time to pay it forward. When we breakthrough, we see the light. It is up to us to help others that are ready. The ultimate form of leadership, of transcendence, of purpose behind the cycles of our life. There is awakening in understanding. We are created to heal.
When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.
As much as I believe I am ready, and I know others believe they are ready… are we really? Because it takes a space of surrendering the ego, a space of being willing to learn. To slow down, to stop and open our eyes to a different perception. This is learning, this is growing.
My prayer today: I am willing to see this different. I am willing to forgive. I am willing to let go and have an experience beyond my imagination.
*Thank you Gabby for being a continued light to open up my journey to love. Those of you that follow her, will recognize those words. They are powerful, they are surrendering and they are the exact words that allow me to be in the space to be ‘ready’.
Ready to learn how to move past the pain inside that is holding me back. The pain that eats me up inside without me even knowing it.
When I am ready, the teacher appears. For me, I am in an ongoing practice of years of surrendering and finding this space. Just like anything else the more we do it, the more powerful and deep the experience. Also the quicker the manifestation. The answers are almost immediate, the teacher shows up sometimes in a matter of seconds and many times (like today) over and over in various forms.